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For whatever reason, it’s my least favorite chore. I dread sorting the clothes into piles. I loathe moving things from the washer to the dryer over and over again.
Folding? Forget it.
I end up leaving baskets of clean laundry sitting around until I’ve worn everything in them and the clothes are right back in the washer.
My kid has told me on many occasions that she’s out of underwear.
You could say I’m a laundry delinquent.
You would think since I’m already a laundry loser, that slacking off more around laundry would be a bad idea. You would think that I’m already so slothlike that introducing Slacker Magic at this point would result in a total laundry meltdown. (Slacker Magic is the art of strategic slacking guided by inner wisdom.)
However, the more I slack off in general and allow myself the space to rest, play, and restore my spirit, the more my laundry gets done.
Sometimes, if I wait to do something that just feels too hard/heavy right now, serious magic happens.
I’ve berated myself so many times for being behind on a task (even as I push it to the next day, over and over again).
I’ve judged myself for not being on top of things. I push myself to “just get it done,” but can’t seem to override the sluggish, slothlike energy in my body.
It gets put off. It gets put off again.
Then, suddenly, without me doing a thing, the need for the task simply vanishes.
Someone does it for me.
It becomes moot because circumstances changed.
Something happens and it just works out in a completely different way.
An event gets canceled and I no longer need to complete the task.
Whatever the reason, one thing is clear. My inner wisdom knew all along. She weighed me down until my limbs felt leaden when I approached the...
As a mind-body coach with years of experience in helping people improve their well-being, I state the following:
You are allowed to slack.
You are allowed to rest.
You are allowed to slack and rest even if you aren’t tired!
You are allowed to goof off.
You are allowed to do nothing.
You are allowed to play.
You do NOT have to “get everything done” before you go slack, rest, goof-off, do nothing, or play.
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The night before I started second grade, I freaked out. I was certain I wasn’t ready. My mom came into my room, snuggled me, and tried to convince me that I was, indeed, prepared for second grade.
Patiently, my mom explained that actually, the point of going to second grade was that I wasn’t supposed to know second grade stuff yet. I was going to learn it while I was in the second grade. Therefore, I was not behind.
It’s probably safe to say I’ve been pressuring myself for my entire life.
That’s why helping clients drop self-pressure is a big passion for me!
I know what it’s like to live with that constant heaviness; the internal pressure cooker working away day in and day out.
I have also found a way to stop constantly pressuring myself and achieve results through self-kindness and compassion. I know culture...
Before I became a parent, I imagined doing things like feeding my child or tucking her in at night. I could envision putting a yummy dinner on the table, enjoying time together, and then easily moving on to a nice bath and snuggle.
I really had no idea that such a simple thing as switching from mealtime to bathtime could include three meltdowns and take oh, say, four hours.
As a new parent, I learned that every day is filled with transitions from one activity to the next and that kids do transitions differently than we do. Things I didn’t even think were a big deal turned out to be enormous transitions for my girl.
I discovered numerous fabulous parenting tools to help her move through transitions. I read several amazing parenting books. I learned about her needs and how to help her deal with fear. And transitions still took time.
Quite accidentally, I also learned about myself. (Isn’t this exactly how parenting works?)
I’ve discovered that Slacker Magic comes with its own vocabulary.
Need some rest? Haven’t spent enough time restoring your body and spirit lately?
If so, it’s time for some slothing.
Notice you’re pressuring yourself too much and trying to make something turn out “just right?” And now you’re exhausted and don’t even want to do whatever it is anymore?
It might be better to go ahead and slackerize that project.
If you’re overwhelmed, tired, or not feeling great, maybe it’s time to shift into Slacker Magic mode and start applying these new words...
The wellness industry is a booming industry. There are countless ways you can improve your health. You can use “natural” alternative healing techniques. You can read books. You can try a variety of dietary approaches.
While the pursuit of wellness seems harmless, there’s one catch:
If your pursuit of wellness is built on a foundation of subtle pressure to change, improve, or be better, you might be adding unnecessary stress to your mind-body system.
This is counter-productive to your pursuit of wellness.
Are you pressuring yourself to be fitter than you are?
Are you pressuring yourself to eat healthily all the time?
Are you pressuring yourself to do stress-reducing activities like meditation?
That pressure creates stress. It forces you to think about failures. It makes you focus on what you need to do to instead of celebrating what you have already done.
Culture teaches us to push ourselves toward success and...
Cue the Pink Panther music.
Look left and right. Check the hallway.
Peek carefully past the doorway and see if the coast is clear.
Escape. Make a dash to the bathroom. Close the door and hide, pretending you needed a restroom break.
This is your moment. No boss, no kids, no spouse, no houseguests…
Whatever you need to escape from, you’ve done it. Take five to ten minutes to yourself and do anything that gives you a brief but delightful moment of joy.
Congratulations! Now you know how to Stealth Slack.
Stealth Slacking lets you release a little pressure when it feels like everything is just too much. When you really need a minute to feel free, Stealth Slacking will be a balm to your soul. You can slack off, regain your sanity, and reconnect with yourself. Stealth Slacking is an important part of the overall Slacker Magic way of being.
Ten things I’ve found fun during Stealth Slacking...
The sun shone, illuminating the pink stripe I’d just painted on my little bedroom shelf. It was a perfect summer day, so I’d brought the shelf into the yard to give it a coat of pink paint. The thick, easy swipe of the brush satisfied a deep creative craving in my soul.
Being ten years old, I thought a pink shelf was exactly the right fit for my bedroom. I picked up a roller, rolled it through the paint and gave each shelf a nice, thick coat. I turned to reload, but something caught my eye.
The deck post was just behind me, and it was chipped and worn at the bottom. It called for a touch-up.
Lost in the creativity of the moment, I rolled the roller up the post, enthusiastically painting it pink.
Admittedly, later, I realized that probably wasn’t the best idea. My dad, it seemed, felt that pink was not the right color for the deck post. We shared different creative visions.
I didn’t get into a ton of trouble as a kid, but I did...
I used to dream of owning my own business and being a coach. I could just see it; I’d have the easy life. I’d have a relaxed, easy schedule, everything would be light and enjoyable, and I’d be the best boss I’d ever had.
So, imagine my surprise when I opened my practice and promptly created a giant business goal that felt, um…kind of hard.
I’ve repeated that situation every year since. Yes, I’m a good boss. But do I make things easy for myself? Not one bit. I create challenge after challenge for myself. I’m constantly pushing my edge.
Am I trying to torture myself?
Not at all. Actually, I’m having extreme amounts of fun.
To explain why this practice of challenging myself and pushing my edge creates so much joy and delight, I have to share the work of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi with you. He wrote the book Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, which is an interesting read for any entrepreneur.
When I first read his book in...