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Smithsonian Syndrome can strike at any moment. It’s not necessarily chronic, but can leave the sufferer dazed and frozen, unable to create with confidence for stretches of time.
It’s a common form of self-pressure that takes hold and attacks the sufferer’s mind and body swiftly and suddenly.
When it strikes, the sufferer is under the impression they must create a finished product worthy of the Smithsonian.
Anger towards one’s self
Thoughts about how an end product isn’t good enough
The pressure to make something par excellence
Lack of enjoyment
If you find yourself experiencing Smithsonian Syndrome frequently, there’s really only one effective treatment: Slacker Magic.
You’ll need to learn how to take the pressure off yourself, stat.
Luckily, I can teach you how to do that.
Join me for the Slacker Magic Course to relieve...
That hit you in the face. Knock you flat on your back. Fun times!
I’ve had a few (as in a LOT) of those in my life. That’s exactly why I created Slacker Magic.
When shit hits the fan, Slacker Magic will carry you forward. It will be the ground under your feet in groundless times. It will help you navigate both the best and the worst of times.
Recently, an acquaintance was asking me what I do. I told him about Slacker Magic.
He said, “Oh yes! I’ve had to learn how to live like that because of serious illness.” Yep.
When hard times hit, you can’t afford to add self-pressure, pushing, and over-efforting into the mix. Everything that adds extra stress has to be stripped away so that you can survive.
You need your inner wisdom guidance there, waiting, ready to show you the next step forward. And the next. And the next.
During major upheavals,...
Yesterday, I found myself apologizing for expressing an emotion.
I was in a high-stress situation, in a private room with a person who was there to listen, and it was a perfectly acceptable moment to have a feeling, culturally speaking.
Tears were welling up in my eyes and my body refused to keep them inside. It was as necessary to feel those feelings as it was to breathe.
And yet, there I was, apologizing for crying.
Even after years of coaching others to help them allow their emotions to exist.
Then, this morning, I read an article about a holocaust survivor who, while giving a talk about the holocaust and her experience, became emotional. In her talk, she, too, apologized for “being emotional.”
Here’s the thing, folks. Of all the humans who should be allowed to cry, wail, scream, yell, or do whatever they need at any moment, a holocaust survivor would be first on the list.
Seriously. After surviving the unimaginable, unspeakable horrors of a concentration...
How do you slack when you’re building your business and not making any money? I’m so stressed but stuck in inaction and know I’m not trusting the process.
Let’s quickly cut to the root of the issue: Fear.
It’s normal to feel fear when you’re an entrepreneur and working to make ends meet. Especially when you’re just starting out.
The only problem is that fear often tells the nervous system to freeze, just like you would if a bear had you in its jaws. At that moment, your safest strategy is to play dead, and your body knows it.
Unfortunately, playing dead in your business is NOT a good strategy. Often I see new entrepreneurs either immobilized by fear or scurrying around without taking time to rest and restore. Sometimes it can be a mix of those two strategies because the nervous system is sending signals to flee or freeze then rinse and repeat.
Recently, a client told me she was worried about taking the time to rest that she needed because her spouse was doing a lot of work. She didn’t want it to be unfair. And, she’s not the only client to share this sort of concern with me.
Ladies. We need to talk.
To be proficient at Slacker Magic, you’ll need to shift your focus from other people to your own rest. Which means you’ll need to turn your attention to your own body, the sensory signals it’s sending, and the messages it’s subtly (or not so subtly) sharing.
Which also means you’ll need to allow yourself to shift your attention to YOU.
If this feels hard, it’s totally understandable. Culture trains us to focus on others and to pay less attention to our voices and needs. You might feel like a jerk at first for allowing yourself to listen to your internal signals and take action around them.
The payoff, though, is huge. As...
A couple of weeks ago, I snuck away to a vacation rental thirty minutes from my home. The fall leaves decorated the foothills and a nearby hiking trail beckoned.
I’d planned this retreat to A) have a lot of fun and restore my spirit and B) create new ideas for my business. I imagined a light-hearted week with my good friend/marketing strategist who had flown in to join me.
You know the feeling when you visualize and dream about the upcoming fun? Revel in the anticipation? I knew delight was waiting for me on that Colorado hillside.
And yet, at the same time, I found I had to sit and be with major emotions throughout the week. I had a little meltdown one day. Other days I felt turbulence rolling around in my chest and hit the hiking trail to help my body and spirit work through it.
When you become a parent, it’s messy. When you open up to the mind-body connection and refuse to stuff your feelings...
The new phone I’d just purchased arrived broken. My daughter needed something urgently for her school function the next day. Technology taunted me mercilessly all day.
Also, I felt super tired. Overwhelmed. Grumpy.
In my line of work, Mondays are often really exciting. I love coaching. I love exploring where my business would like to go next. I love working from home.
So, I was annoyed that this Monday was being such a…Monday.
I went into action mode, engaging my habitual self-pressure thinking machine in order to override my emotions and get stuff done. This caused an instant heart-racing, choked feeling in my chest.
Screeeeeeeech! I hit the brakes.
I have a long-standing history of engaging the self-pressure override mode. It always, one-hundred percent of the time, consistently, definitely, for sure gets me in trouble. My body suffers. My spirit wanes. My heart resists.
I end up...
For months on end, my office looked like it had been attacked by a vivacious crew of toddlers bent on playing with every item in the room.
Papers blanketed my desk, keyboard, and floor. Books had toppled from neat stacks into piles of flotsam on the carpeted shores by the doorway.
I had lived happily in this creative mess for several months.
Then, one day, it was time. I felt the urge in my whole body.
My office wanted to be organized. My year needed to be mapped out on the calendar.
Never mind that the traditional time of year for that had flown by months ago. This was the right moment for my body, mind, and spirit.
This is a peek into the mysterious ways of Slacker Magic. Trust that whatever isn’t happening now isn’t meant to be happening now. Your moment will come. Your body and spirit will guide the way.
Right now, there are still closets on my to-do list;...
It might not seem like the powerful, magic-maker that it is at first. It’s something that’s easy to overlook. It’s easy to say, “Oh, yeah, that seems like a really great idea,” and then completely forget to do it.
Because it’s not something we’re usually taught to do, and it can mean changing your way of being toward yourself in radical ways.
The one thing you need to do to create more magic in your life is to practice self-kindness. This will make more magic happen than any special techniques or methods ever can.
Self-kindness is the foundation for all magic.
It’s the source of your power. It’s the key ingredient to creating well-being, energy, synchronicities, and anything else you deem magical.
Try this simple way to add more self-kindness to your day:
In college, my biology class was right after lunch. It’s fair to say that biology was not my passion. I could not keep my eyes open for the life of me.
I was somewhat of a rule-follower, so I was nervous to skip class. I have an innate and deep fear of getting in trouble.
Yet…snoozeville. Boring. Boooooring.
So I did it.
One afternoon, I took a delicious, delightful nap instead of attending class.
(It may have happened a few more times after that, technically speaking.)
Little rebellions like this are energizing. (Especially if you’re often very hard on yourself.) They’re small moments when we pay homage to the needs of our bodies, souls, and hearts.
Though they may seem scary, moments of rebellion often hold the key to new ideas, inspiration, and entire paths we simply wouldn’t have noticed otherwise.
Little rebellions are often borne of inner wisdom, guiding us toward something bigger.