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Everyone’s jumping off the hustle bus to get things done, and talking about working differently. Even the business coaches who definitely hustle are now playing it cool and talking about not hustling. Why? Because it’s the new thang.
This new trend in the coaching-biz world is great; it means there’s less social pressure to overwork and create burnout. Round of applause for that!
But, there’s one problem:
Our culture has drilled into us since childhood that achievement and accomplishment = self-worth and awesomeness. That productivity is king and leads to coaching business success.
So, when you sit down to work on your business, it’s pretty darn hard to ignore that ingrained way of being.
Your mind wants to be hard on you. It wants to pressure you to ignore your inner guidance and just push forward through fatigue or mind-fog to get things done. It wants to judge you if you don’t get everything on your to-do list...
I was talking to my Mind-Body Magic Community Members about social media this week, and something important came up: wasting time. Specifically, wasting time creating and writing social media content.
Many of the coaches in the community weren’t a fan of wasting time writing social media content (defined as writing content that “didn’t work”).
I’ve also seen this idea that we’re “wasting time” in several of the bazillion ads I get in my feed about running a coaching business.
This is a typical scarcity tactic: It’s designed to make you feel a little yucky about everything you just did for your business so that you’ll buy the thing so-and-so is selling to make your business better.
In the coaching and entrepreneur world, we call this a bro marketing tactic. In other words, it makes you feel not-so-great so that you’ll want to buy something to fix the issue.
It makes me feel a little barfy just...
How do you slack when you’re building your business and not making any money? I’m so stressed but stuck in inaction and know I’m not trusting the process.
Let’s quickly cut to the root of the issue: Fear.
It’s normal to feel fear when you’re an entrepreneur and working to make ends meet. Especially when you’re just starting out.
The only problem is that fear often tells the nervous system to freeze, just like you would if a bear had you in its jaws. At that moment, your safest strategy is to play dead, and your body knows it.
Unfortunately, playing dead in your business is NOT a good strategy. Often I see new entrepreneurs either immobilized by fear or scurrying around without taking time to rest and restore. Sometimes it can be a mix of those two strategies because the nervous system is sending signals to flee or freeze then rinse and repeat.
I used to dream of owning my own business and being a coach. I could just see it; I’d have the easy life. I’d have a relaxed, easy schedule, everything would be light and enjoyable, and I’d be the best boss I’d ever had.
So, imagine my surprise when I opened my practice and promptly created a giant business goal that felt, um…kind of hard.
I’ve repeated that situation every year since. Yes, I’m a good boss. But do I make things easy for myself? Not one bit. I create challenge after challenge for myself. I’m constantly pushing my edge.
Am I trying to torture myself?
Not at all. Actually, I’m having extreme amounts of fun.
To explain why this practice of challenging myself and pushing my edge creates so much joy and delight, I have to share the work of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi with you. He wrote the book Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, which is an interesting read for any entrepreneur.
When I first read his book in...
I used to think that I had to work really hard to get things done, but when I became a coach and healer many years ago, I learned and practiced that the art of getting things done in this world is by entering a flow of creativity. It’s not about pushing, but about being pulled and listening for that gentle pulling forward.
The other morning, I was writing my memoir outside because the weather was so beautiful. I only work on this project in the early morning before carpool. During the day, I’m involved in other projects and life with family, coaching and continued learning causes me to be masterful with prioritizing my time.
Anyway, that morning, I felt the desire to move inside to continue writing. My desk overlooks my garden, my bird feeders and the one tree that graces our Chicago backyard. I was blessed to see such colorful birds including two that I’ve never seen before—two Rose-Breasted Grosbeaks. Such...