I Give You Permission to Work Differently

The other day I was in a group call and a man in the program tossed out the opinion that my clients needed to grow up because they don’t want to hustle to grow their businesses. After I stopped seeing red, I explained to him that my clients aren’t afraid of hard work or hustle - they just find it incredibly damaging to their bodies, which are often facing chronic illness.

This kind of snap judgment and opinion about those of us who don’t want to hustle is exactly what bolsters the highly damaging external pressure coaches face to work in a way that runs them right into the ground.

This perpetuates the cycle of internal self-pressure to work this way, and leads to guilt, shame, and stress.

You shouldn’t have to work in a way that pleases anyone else in the world in order to thrive in your calling.

I remember when I first started coaching and I left the house at 10 am to get groceries, I felt incredibly guilty. I felt I should be working 9-5 with no breaks in order to be professional.

In reality, who the fork cares how often, how much, when, or how I work as long as I’m fulfilling what I’ve promised for my clients and growing my business?

This hustle mindset is so hard to escape because we’ve grown up in it and it’s all around us.

The hard part is, our minds worry that we can’t have the success we want unless we sacrifice our souls to a work style that feels horrible and literally kills us.

It’s actually the opposite.

How are you supposed to work if you’re dead? How much money will you make then?

Stress is a killer. It makes our nervous systems live in constant fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. This means we’re completely unaware that we’re making decisions based on an activated nervous system, not what truly serves us. Meanwhile, we’re also suffering the symptoms of living with elevated heart rates, blood pressure, muscle tension, slowed digestion, and more.

If you’ve ever felt so tired you didn’t even know you were that tired, you know what I mean. Have you ever stopped to take a break and immediately felt like you’ll never be able to work again, plus you now have a virus?

Our bodies are not meant to work hustle-style. They hate it.

So, if you’re constantly hustling, eventually you’ll end up with a stress-based illness. Or chronic pain. Or chronic fatigue.

Meanwhile, you can’t even get your best ideas when your nervous system is activated. You’re not even able to access your higher thinking under the influence of adrenaline, fear, and tension.

You can’t work at your best levels with creative, responsive ideas and smart decisions.

Why the heck, then, would we even want to work in a way that literally makes us too tired to be smart and then makes us sick?

There’s only one reason; we think it’s a “work ethic” and it will make us succeed.

That’s exactly why I’ve set out to prove this thinking wrong and created a whole system for coaches who really don’t want to work that way but are maybe a little scared to give themselves permission to work differently.

It’s always easier to shift your mindset if you know others are doing it, too, and have had success despite not following the old way.

I’m out here lending the charge, paving the road, gathering the community, and creating the evidence for you so that you can truly, for real, definitely give yourself permission to work in a way that allows you to take actual care of your body and spirit and still make loads of money.

Mindset work on your own is totally doable. But - when you’re up against a cultural belief system like hustling, having a group of others who are also focusing on the new mindset is spectacularly helpful.

It just makes it easier to give yourself permission to give up the old ways. Together, we’re stronger. Together, we can beat the old mindset.

The world doesn’t stop when you rest. Your business doesn’t fall apart. Instead, when you rest, you give inner wisdom time to process and connect the dots and then give you your best ideas. When you rest, you recharge your body so that you can be creative and responsive in your business.

When you rest, you allow your nervous system to regulate and your body to heal.

When you take time to do things that delight you, you regulate your nervous system. It realizes that there’s no immediate threat when you are playing and it shifts out of fight or flight.

The more you do things that delight you and rest - before you ever start “working” on your business - the more your business simply works. It feels almost wrong, like you should have worked hard for that outcome, but it just appeared.

The more you enjoy your life and rest your body, the easier it is to do tasks. They take just a few minutes or hours because you have the energy, vitality, and ideas to get the tasks done in less time with less effort.

I call all of this Slacker Magic. The more we slack, the more we grow our businesses. Why? Because you can’t slack and NOT get all the genius ideas you need to make all the income you want.

See how this works?

Eventually, when you’re slacking (resting your body and doing things that fill you with delight), you’ll get to a point where you’re driven to leap into action and accomplish the ideas you’ve been getting while slacking.

Then eventually, when you’re in action mode, you’ll get tired and be naturally driven to go rest and restore.

If you trust those rhythms, you’ll have a successful business.

And, of course, helping you to do this and to gain the confidence that all of this really works is exactly what I do in my group program. You’ll LOVE the community aspect because you’ll be able to escape from nasty hustle-style messages and hang out with supportive non-hustlers. 😉

Plus, I’ll give you my exact Slacker Magic System for working differently so you can manifest income and clients without running yourself into the ground. While you’re learning that, we’ll get your niche articulated so clearly that clients will fall over themselves to work with you, design your signature program that allows you more time off, and then make sure all of your business ecosystems are set up efficiently so that you can grow and scale your income without hustling.

You can learn more about this program and others here.